Desire Didn’t Come Back Until
My Mind Stopped Interrogating It
For a long time, I thought my libido was gone because my body had changed.
But when I paid attention, it was not my body shutting things down.
It was my mind.
Every intimate moment came with commentary.
Am I relaxed enough
Why am I distracted
Why is this not working
Those questions kept me locked in my head while my body waited quietly to be noticed.
One night, instead of trying to fix anything, I made a simple decision.
I stopped asking questions.
I chose one sensation and stayed with it.
The warmth of skin.
The rhythm of breath.
The pressure of touch.
Nothing else mattered.
The moment my mind stopped evaluating, my body responded.
Desire did not need to be forced or summoned.
It was already there.
It just needed my mind to stop interrupting it.
If you feel disconnected from pleasure, pay attention to the thoughts running through your head.
You may not need more stimulation.
You may need less mental noise.
The Mind pillar of the SHE BE ME framework reminds us that pleasure is not a mental achievement.
It is a felt experience.
Your mind can either block the door or gently step aside.