If self-pleasure was a Netflix genre, it’d be “feel-good drama”—heavy on the feel-good.
And yet, the number of people who still treat solo sex like some sort of tragic, last-resort act? Wild. As if touching your own body means you’ve somehow “settled.” Newsflash: knowing your own body is the opposite of settling—it’s leveling up.
The Body Knows (SHE-BE-ME™: Body Pillar)
Your body is your primary playground for intimacy. Every nerve, every curve, every shiver—it’s yours to know. And here’s the thing: the more you understand what lights you up, the better you can communicate that to a partner.
Solo exploration isn’t just about orgasms (though, let’s be real, those are a perk). It’s about:
Learning what kinds of touch make your breath catch.
Noticing how your body responds to different sensations.
Building confidence in expressing what you want.
3 Ways to Make It Sacred
Set the scene: Light a candle, choose music that makes you feel delicious, and kick out any distractions.
Explore slowly: Try “touch mapping” - lightly explore different areas of your body to notice changes in sensation.
Layer the senses: Add temperature play (cool silk, warm oil) or scents that turn you on.
Why It’s Worth It
This isn’t a consolation prize. This is a direct line to knowing yourself better, improving your intimate relationships, and reclaiming your right to pleasure—at every age.
Your turn: If you could design the perfect solo night in, what’s the first thing you’d set up? Reply - I might steal your ideas for a future “Pleasure Rituals” guide.