The Menopausal Minute

The Menopausal Minute

When Sex Starts to Feel Like a Job

Allie Theiss, MSc CSC ABS IFN's avatar
Allie Theiss, MSc CSC ABS IFN
Jan 22, 2026
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At some point, intimacy can quietly shift from something you feel into something you manage.

Pleasure fades into effort.
Attention moves toward timing and reactions.
Connection turns into maintenance instead of presence.

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That shift is often where desire begins to disappear.

This doesn’t happen because attraction is gone.
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